When you research the benefits of meditation and mindfulness, the list reads almost too good to be true. Researchers say it may help improve anxiety, depression, pain and help relieve insomnia, among other benefits.
But when it comes to actually starting to meditate, it can feel downright intimidating. For some, the thought of sitting in stillness for an extended amount of time feels overwhelming. For others, they would love to sit in silence for a given period of time, but kids, pets or other obligations seem to keep them from finding the time.
Whether you're curious about meditation or a long-time meditator looking to get back into the practice, the tips below can help you start or restart meditating. Ashley Wray, meditation teacher and founder of Mala Collective, shares her best tips for beginner meditators below.
Myths about meditation
One of the hardest things about meditating is simply starting. There's a lot of information about meditation out there, and much of the information says that there's a right and wrong way to do it.
But according to Wray, these types of preconceived notions actually prevent most people from starting or keeping a practice because they're too intimidated. Below, she dispels common myths that can hold you back on your meditation journey.
Myth 1: There is a 'right' way to meditate
With all of the meditation courses, apps, and books out there, you're probably thinking that there's a "right" or "wrong" way to meditate. There are many different styles and philosophies surrounding mindfulness and meditation practices, the best one for you is the one that you'll actually want to do.
"Try not to get too caught up on the form -- if you're doing it right or wrong...and just do it. Build the habit first instead of worrying if you're sitting correctly or doing it right," Wray says.
Myth 2: You're not allowed to think
One of the most common misconceptions about meditation is that if you allow yourself to think while meditating, then you failed. But Wray says that's simply not the point.
It's normal for your mind to wander while you meditate, but the important part is that you notice it and don't let it derail you. "Even if it's uncomfortable, just watch your thoughts and come back to your focus. And when your mind wanders you can choose to judge yourself or come back with kindness," says Wray.
Myth 3: You have to meditate for 30 minutes or longer
Another common myth around meditation is that you have to do it for a certain amount of time for it to "work." Some people talk about meditating for 30 or 45 minutes or even for hours -- which is super-intimidating when you've never even meditated for 5 minutes.
"Thinking you need to clear your mind for 20 minutes or 30 minutes is a really intimidating approach to meditation. So I try to make it a bit more accessible with this idea that maybe it's 10 minutes or 8 minutes to connect to your breath and slow down and find some space in between your thoughts," says Wray.
Beginner tips for meditation
Again, there's no one right way to meditate. Try the tips from Wray below to help guide you with your new meditation practice.
Have something to focus on
When you first start meditating it can feel really uncomfortable to sit in silence without distractions, like your phone, around. One minute can feel like hours.
For this reason, Wray suggests using a tool to help you focus on your meditation, especially when your mind wanders. She suggests mala beads -- prayer beads that some people use to meditate -- for beginners because it gives you something tactile to focus on.
"The Mala beads have helped me to not look at my phone as much [and ignore other distractions.] It's just an easy focal point that is good for beginners to help with both the energy and attention and the timing," she says.
Use an app or guided meditation if you'd like
Using a meditation app or guided meditation video can be helpful when you first start. While these tools aren't necessary, they can give you an idea of what different meditation styles are like or help give you some structure around how to meditate.
Many of the apps offer meditation challenges, which can be helpful for getting in the habit. Popular apps include Headspace, Calm and Insight Timer.
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